fred flinstone:
Because this body (or any body) is not-self I shouldn't have a stake in what happens with them. Any affect is simply letting your body know about the stake the self thinks it has in whatever situation, but this stake is always imagined. Since nothing actual is self, I have no stake in anything, so trying to influence things is silly.
When I used this idea it worked at first and I felt good about the success. But then the next day the white bear effect was kicking in and thinking of 'self' as not the body was an idea that 'I' was rejecting.
So I tried something else that kind of works
with the white bear effect, and I think it's similar to something else fred wrote, but it really just seems like a game of 'whack-a-mole' in that it doesn't permamently prevent me from triggering the feeling I was just feeling...
1) When I feel a feeling I don't want, e.g. irritation, I feel it and try to get rid of it. This creates some tension (become fully aware of it)
2) I realise that trying to get rid of it does not work (the effort is silly)
3) Then I give up trying and relax (happy and harmless)
It is a bit like clenching your fist and then relaxing.