josh r s:
when i desire that good/bad things happen to others or even animals i am also desiring it on behalf of their identity rather than their body.
And how could one possibly desire anything for others' identities, of which one has absolutely no experience and also no proof of existence? By projection of ones own identity.
I do not know if all you are saying here is correct, but most of it makes sense to my immediate thinking about it.
I'm sure you would fit right into the crowds of mind-only schools of Buddhism