Really simple? Not so much. You are confusing several separate concepts together to make it extra confusing though. It will take time and effort to figure this out if you are really interested. Look up Tom Campbell in youtube and watch some lectures...if you find it interesting then read his trilogy. This will explain the reality we are experiencing and the greater reality and answer the fractal nature of consciousness and how we are one yet individuated at the same time.
As far as experiencing reality as nondual yourself, if you shut down the selfing processes layer by layer that create the sense of self then a non dual experience of reality will happen. The book "The ego tunnel" outlines these layers quite well and is a fun read.
I wish I could explain it in a paragraph but I read about 1000 pages to learn it all.
Good Luck
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Everything I've read along these lines boils down to: we don't
experience anything other than experience, therefore there
is nothing other than experience... which means that experience is not experience
of anything. The criterion of proof makes it impossible to prove the existence of anything other than experience, and then the absence of proof is turned into proof of absence. If anyone knows of a coherent treatment of this theme that does NOT rely on such a sleight of hand, I'd be interested to hear about it...
Meanwhile, of course experience is nondual... for everyone, all the time, whether they know it or not. Experience never experiences the absence of itself, or the boundaries of itself. They're only inferred, never experienced. But I haven't seen really convincing arguments that the inference (that something exists independently of awareness) is wrong.
(Edit: I can see the value of treating experience this way, and I often play around with such things myself for the psychological effects -- but turning it into metaphysics / ontology is a different matter).