So I took a walk and tried to simply my first post:
My inclination is that the fetters drop automatically from getting path and getting into a nondual framework. Being nondual seems to be the cause of craving and ill will to evaporate....crave what? all that is, is already me/everything...ill will towards what? all that is, is already me/everything. See what I mean?
I understand your point. The same side of that non-dual point is, however, suffusive self-centering ("me/everything" as you write). "Me/everything" is also a surfeit assertion, a dhamma --- a hindrance to 3rd, so to speak. Even the arupa jhanas are dhammas, arising they also pass. So too "me/everything" view: a dhamma, a phenomena, an asserted object.
Otherwise said: "me/everything" view as in "ill will towards what? all that is, is already me/everything" is also in the family of subtle craving --- one of the foci with 2nd-to-3rd path examination --- creating and holding to dhammas; it creates a satisfaction and sustains the need for satisfaction and is deeply gratified that its being is massively expanded, as if its own generic-like expansion could reduce its sense of self. Not so. It is bigger than ever and subtle now. Very difficult to see then, until that created dhamma deflates unsatisfactorily and drives one on looking for "Where is reliable satisfaction? What gives rise to dukkha? Even me/everything view..."
So when Daniel speaks of cycles and cycles and cycles and seeing this in 3rd there is resonance with all ideas/all notions/ all cycles "deflating" into being seen as simple dhammas -- nothing to grab/add/overlay, pure and simple. So 3rd is about mind simplifying by not adding, mindfulness (that is attentive, not cool, due to absence of ill-will). Hence, craving also would go.
I love Daniels article on magick-and-the-brahma-viharas
i thanked him for that not long back, too. Magick is part of the "me/everything" zone, too, especially if it's untempered by the very clear understanding of suffusive mindfulness, something that seems to become suffusive for the 4th path folk.
The mechanism of mindfulness is much, much more influential and harmless than "me/everything" and "magick". It is also without inflation/deflation even as it acts, because suffusive mindfulness is functional, caring and localized to the immediate this and that, wholesome, and acts without asserting new dhammas, unlike "me/everything" and its creativity (which is cool...) and which is a dhamma that deflates just as it inflated to "me/everything". This is why there is always a question/reserve regarding ethics/intent of siddhis: Compared to the natural, non-additive influence of suffusive mindfulness, siddhis are dhammas: created, additive, intentionally arising things that will pass -- takes extreme skill, benefits from staying focused on just metta.
'Me/everything" is a very tricky view and needs utmost balanced understanding-- it is a dhamma. Whereas the "me,nothing" in mindfulness gives proper perspective when that mindfulness is built care-fully, with lots of personal study along the way and thus avoids nihilistic truncation of the practice as well as avoiding pretension and aversion, aka: cold disspasion. Anyway, so if you stay at me/everything for a while like maps, it's cool. I keep learning that it's only by dissatisfaction and outright pain that I drop some pursuits, but the pursuits and the dropping seem essential. *sigh*
Thanks much for sharing your practice, D.