Beoman Claudiu Dragon Emu Fire Golem:
right.. that last part is making sense now. i seem to have had really ingrained habit about thinking "oh if X happens that means that i still have a self" and "ah perceiving Y in Z way is the way to perceive it, as if no-self". now those tendencies still happen but it seems their fuel has been cut off and that they are slowly falling away.
Right! Everything is always no-self, all the time, and the key to 4th is looking for the stuff that you think is specifically self or specifically no-self and seeing why it's all the same. (Easier to look at the self stuff in my opinion.)