Hey Che, like the pic by the way

At some stage the whole world collapsed into negativity so much my wife wanted to divorce me. Thanks to a friend who read the Maps by D. Ingram, me and me wife reading through the part describing The Dark Night brought some light into our relationship again and into the practice of mine.
I know that situation all too well, it's great that your wife has been able to see how all this negativity fits into the process and get some perspective on it. It takes a strong relationship to have that level of mutual understanding so you've already got something there which may prove invaluable along the way.
I clearly passed all the stages passed the re-observation (which was very disturbing)
Would you mind saying a bit more about what actually happened during this period?
It feels like all the dark clouds have passed away. I know they will return but this time I feel I know how they circle around. I have obsreved that this map (in my case at leasy) has something to do with the Moon's Phases. The Dark Night seems to happen on the first week of the becoming of the Full Moon for some reason. This is of no big importance it is just a helping reminder not to take the Dark Stuff seriously so to avoid unnecessry bleedthrough which often happens.
Correlation with Dark Night and the full moon may be purely coincidental although I also notice that the full moon affects my mood, often making me either really down or hyperactive and manic. I don't know how that fits within the cycle as a whole and I wouldn't worry to much about trying to line it up with the maps, as long as you're aware that you're more prone to extremes in mood during this period of time then you've got a head start and can deal with any negative stuff as it arises. Most importantly, you've got the "no bleedthrough" thing down, this alone is very effective.
If sensing uneasy emotions bubbling up I make sure to look up at the sky and see where Mara's Moon is
If aproaching full moon, I make sure to keep an awake eye on the inner "Werewolf".
Pay attention to those uneasy emotions, let them arise and observe them, don't try to fight with them or push them away 'cause this doesn't do anything useful. Note them, objectify them and see that they're impermanent, empty and unsatisfying.
I realised that Shamatha wouldn't do much in the Dark Night but rather cause more frustration so I switched to sitting instead of 40mins at once (my usual pass) to 25min sit x 10 min walk x 25 min sit (zazen style) and would repeat these words as a Mantra "Do I allow myself to take refuge in this present moment?" through out the whole practice. It seems to be keeping me anchored quiet well must say. Still the Dark remains Dark, and that is the way it is.
Mantra comes under concentration really, so you're still doing a variant of samatha. This isn't necessarily a bad thing as it's useful to have access to jhana when you're feeling a bit raw and tender during DN territory, but what's more effective for helping this to pass is constant, precise attention to the sensations as they happen. Zazen may not be as useful for you at this stage in development although I stand to be corrected, due to my experience I have a bias towards vipassana. If you're feeling grounded and anchored with concentration then that's fantastic, turn the attention on the sensations arising and see them for what they are. This will lead you through DN quicker if done correctly and accurately, without a doubt. It may make the ride a little rougher for a short period but it's effective.
Now that Im aproaching Equanimity I felt to join this community and ask you to give me a hand through tips.
How do you know you're approaching Equanimity? Could you describe your experience of what happens in your current practice, not speculation or interpretation, just the basic facts 'cause that makes it a bit easier to get an idea of what advice would be most effective.
Im back to sitting 40 mins streight instead of the 25x10x25 mins. I also let go of the mantra and am only sitting with Silent Pressent Moment Awareness sensing the Whole Body Breathing as part of the Present Moment. So as you see it is very wide.
Perhaps increase your sitting to a full hour if you can manage it. Another useful approach is to bring your practice into daily life, that way you can make the most of the opportunities through the day. Getting stream-entry is a lot to do with gaining momentum and a solid practice schedule will make this more likely. It's absolutely and completely possible to do this, I'd recommend starting up a practice thread on here describing your meditations in terns of what actually happens, just simple descriptions of what sort of sensation you're noting throughout the sit.
May all beings be free from suffering
Hell yeah!
Best of luck and welcome on board!
T