These books were really helpful to me:
Thoretical:1. Self-Deception by Fingarette
2. The Adjusted American by Putney and Putney
http://www.amazon.com/Self-Deception-Herbert-Fingarette/dp/0520220528http://www.amazon.com/Adjusted-American-Neurosis-Individual-Society/dp/0060900954Practical:1. Focusing by Eugene Gendlin
http://www.amazon.com/Focusing-Eugene-T-Gendlin/dp/0553278339I really think Focusing is genius, in terms of dealing with your "stuff"--fears, feelings, motivations, anxiety, and barely-conscious things gnawing at you and controlling your behavior. It's an attentional practice that seems to integrate body, mind, and
meaning.
Also, Jack Kornfield says in a blurb in the front matter of the book: "Focusing is a beautiful and meditative approach to psychotherapy and personal growth. It offers a deep parallel to the practice of mindfulness in a carefully developed and sensitive way."
Pretty cool, right? It's been so helpful to me in conjunction with concentration and insight practices (always being clear about which I'm actually doing at any given time), that I wanted to make sure others knew about it.
-Mark