John Finley:
Apathy implies indifference to the controllable outcome of objective events...".
Hope this helps,
John
Hi John and thanks for your quick reply,
I will definitely re-read some of S. Young stuff, as I didn't read (or listen) to him recently. I stumbled upon him years ago and was very impressed by his scientific approach.
Before that, what about the UNcontrollable outcome of objective events..."
I suppose, you just have to accept them ... Isn't that close to "learned helplessness"?
1. You know "this event has this outcome"
2. You know you can't do anything about it
3. You are desperate, helpless, and don't want to just accept. You want to do something, whatever ...
4. You look at that from all possible angles, and come back to the conclusion that well you can't do anything ... the undesirable outcome is inevitable...
What do you do to have a healthy acceptance and not fall in the "learned helplessness" or stated otherwise how to strengthen your equanimity in the face of Uncontrollable events?
I've been confused by this issue for some time now, I may need a shift of perspective, or something to see what might be obvious for others.
Young says:
"Intentionally creating equanimity in your mind: This means attempting to let go of negative judgments about what you are experiencing and replacing them with an attitude of loving acceptance and gentle matter-of-factness."
This is beautiful but some people may need further explanation, practical tips and tricks to do it. How to love undesirable outcomes, Practically!
Thanks again and Salam
Abdou