Voku Hila:
C C C:
G'day.
Stress. What is it? What's stressing you?
G'day

mostly pressure to perform. also examples in past and future of not doing things correctly.
--Pressure to perform.
--Doing doing things correctly
Not feeling good enough for others. Feeling imperfect, inadequate. Feeling like you don't measure up. Feeling like others judge you harshly.
The mind goes astray when it:
1. dwells on mistakes, wanting the
past to be re-written.
2. dwells on desires, wanting the
future to be different to the way it is now.
So there's a future or past orientation. You might day-dream of having a nice relationship or a house renovation or a new car or promotion. But this pulls you out of the present. If you're a true perfectionist you might live your whole life wanting things to be different to what they are right now. Maybe you day-dream about being enlightened. Maybe you day-dream of being able to re-sit your exams, or say sorry to that friend, or take back certain actions. This also pulls you out of the present moment. Only the present moment has any energy. Letting your mind drift from the *here and now* causes enormous energy loss which is experienced first as anxiety and then anxiety+depression.
So pull your mind back into the present reality. Focus on "what is". Focus on the "what is" of your job, the "what is" of your relationship, the "what is" of your finances, the "what is" of your friends, the "what is" of your family, the "what is" of your past, the "what is" of your appearance, the "what is" of your spiritual development.
Pulling your mind back to "what is" with some degree of non-judgement implies that "what is" must be ok. Therefore your self-esteem soars. Life becomes easier. Perfectionism disappears. Social anxiety disappears. Social ease happens. Happiness happens.
The very moment you strive to change "what is", you are day dreaming and you're losing energy. Anyone who makes formal arrangements to sit in meditation is making this very, very basic error, and they don't even know it. The whole thing is a dead end. It has to be. Meditation happens spontaneously if at all. Proper meditation can never be something that you plan out or arrange to do in advance.... to say nothing of striving to achieve state x or stage y. It happens when you are
first happy with the present moment. Then it's just your true nature unfolding.
If you do this just once, you will see that what I'm saying is true. The first change will be in how others relate to you. Then the energy changes.
Report back here if you could, so that others can see it working for you.