Jenny:
Dreamwalker,
Daniel is in and out because on vacation, but I wrote up a template of headings and subheadings for a more complete Code of Conduct section and Vision/Mission section. I agree that reporting and enforcement protocols need to be clear, consistently followed, and transparently communicated out to the membership. So maybe more to come when Daniel is back and has a chance to make decisions and implement.
Jenny
Speaking of vision and mission, although I think the new rules are a step in the right direction as I stated above, I do have some member concerns about how we enforce our enforcement protocols.
It feels like if we try to force people to be nicer to other then it means we lose out what this place is really about. It could end up being just another "Awake Network", and who would want that. After all, this is a place for hardcore meditation practice.
I think Daniel has to take the lead here:
Oh, yes, a brief warning. I should mention that I am hardcore, into hardcore practice, into very hard-hitting dharma, and sometimes I let it out with both barrels. This seems to happen more when I talk on the phone with people, which I do on occasion, but it also happens in emails at times. I expect people to be self-reliant to a high degree, and projections both negative and positive tend to piss me off. I probably should be more understanding, but clearly at times am not. If it happens with you and you are sure nothing good came of it, my apologies, but at least you were warned.From <http://integrateddaniel.info/contact/>
And so by being nice to each other, aren't we going to miss out on the possibilities of that very hard-hitting dharma that Daniel describes, truly "heavy dharma"?
One possibility is that we have a little flag next to a username. This could something simple as a wallet (echoing Jule's wallet with the inscription "Bad M***** F*****" from the well-known film written and directed by Quentin Tarantino called "Pulp Fiction") or perhaps a picture of a skull and crossbones, with the skull wearing a cowboy hat, inspired by a description of Daniel here:
He does not claim to have any special knowledge of how to live skillfully in the conventional world, but has found that a positive attitude, non-pretentious kindness, and a sense of humor will take you a long way. If you imagine that you want to bust out some hardcore practice but are in fact just looking for a daddy, shrink, social worker, or someone to help you prop up your self-esteem, Daniel is unlikely at this stage in his development to be the best person to help you meet your needs. He considers himself to be one badass Dharma Cowboy and prefers similar company or at least those who aspire to be so.
From <http://batgap.com/daniel-ingram/>
That way, if some pisses you off, and you decide to let it out with both barrels, then at least they would have been given some fair warning.
And as for shadow sides, as I mentioned above with the new rules, it seems like it would compromise real hardcore dharma if we don't get people to call them on it. Again Daniel takes the lead here:
Daniel is an extroverted Gen X intellectual. He is known for his pronounced enthusiasm, lip-flapping, grandiosity, eccentricity, and calling people on their stuff and shadow sides regardless of whether or not this is helpful or even accurate.
But then again, perhaps if we are able to give the people that piss us off "both barrels" with a positive attitude, non-pretentious kindness, and a sense of humor, and this is transparently communicated, then it would be ok?
Thoughts from my mods?
Sawfoot_ AKA "The Violator"