James, I am about to take about ten minutes to try to get a point across to you. I'm spending that time -- my time -- on the chance that you are not a troll, and because I'd like to help you out if possible. Please take the following in that spirit.
You are acting like an arsehead, and you should stop it. Bruno already gave you some clues as to how you come across like that, but let me be more specific. Let's just look at your opening post in this thread:
JY:
I see various things on this community board, most noticeably a tendency toward over-analyzing and the production of so-called "pseudo-insights".
So your very first sentence would be taken by most normal people as mildly insulting and critical. You don't say the tendency is towards analysis per se; you say it is towards too much analysis. And in the context of this board, your "pseudo" is also going to be interpreted as you saying something negative -- i.e. that the insights of others are fake, not genuine, etc. The problem isn't necessarily that you believe those things -- the main problem is the
way you say them, and the context in which you say them (e.g. first sentence of first post with no explanation as to why).
You continue:
JY:
Basically a variety of practitioners take up getting into the nitty gritty (in a very tiring and admirable way, but not really) ...
Again, that comes across as needlessly critical. You say "very tiring". And then although you mention "admirable", you also add "not really". And your grammar isn't helping. The comma after "way" means that the "but not really" is modifying "very tiring and admirable way". So what you are saying is that the variety of practitioners in question *appear* to be doing things in a very tiring and admirable way but in reality they are (one of):
* tiring and not admirable
* not tiring, and admirable into the bargain
* tiring and not admirable
I suspect you mean the last of those. But again, you're effectively insulting people.
JY:
...of analyzing the mind (this boosts the conception of a self BTW), and using these technicalities to denote a sense of attainment, which in the end, boosts their conception of self.
Now you appear to try to teach the people you were insulting. But teaching involves a relationship to be effective -- specifically a relationship of some respect. You have not established that, largely because your careless writing style comes across as insulting.
Next you just seem to ramble:
JY:
Self self selfness.
The less self the better.
I have no idea what the Buddha talked about really. No idea what that guy was up too (hopefully I don't accrue too much bad Karma from saying that). And I can't verify much of what he said.
But I can verify what I say. And we can all, hopefully, eventually, verify what we say.
So for the time being, well, I don't know.
So you moved from insults to enigmatic gibberish. You begin by pissing people off, and you then ramble, so why are you surprised at people's reactions?
That, apart from the sutta, was the entirety of your first email -- the email *you* used to initiate a thread.
And here are a couple of snippets from your most recent:
JY:
For example:
I don't believe that everyone here does not practice the true Dhamma of the Buddha simply because I do no like you guys (which is false, I actually do like you guys), but rather because, well, I actually think you guys do not practice the Dhamma of the Buddha.
The first minor point is that the careless way you write makes it non-trivial to figure out how all those negatives are working together. I think what you were trying to say is:
The reason I believe that no one here practices the true Dhamma of the Buddha is not that I don't like you guys. In fact it's not true that I don't like you. Rather, the reason I believe that you don't practice the Dhamma of the Buddha is simply that you *do not* practice it.
Assuming I'm right in my translation, your statement is simultaneously mildly insulting and built on a tautology.
JY:
Another example:
I don't find you people to truly be insane, because I don't like you guys (which again is false), but because I truly find you people, to be insane.
Same problem as above, but now the insult -- insanity -- is worse.
JY:
Noting phenomena over and over again to such minute detail, blacking out, getting involved in all sorts of weird experiences, views and delusions, using drugs.
And just to make sure no one thought you were simply talking to one or two people, you include everyone, and according to you we're all weirdos, doing drugs, and screwing ourselves up.
OK, so here's the problem James. And again -- remember why I'm doing this: to offer you help.
The fact that you believe what you believe may actually be a problem. If you believe everyone on here is subject to the negative qualities to seem to ascribe to us all, then you are quite certainly deluded. I can say with 100% certainty that I do not do drugs, have never blacked out, and show no evidence whatsoever of being insane. I imagine that many others on here -- the majority I'd guess -- are similar (well, there are probably a few people who have used some form of so-called "drug" but not all have). And while I personally do not practice the "true Dhamma of the Buddha" I suspect several do.
Next, let's just suppose for a second that you were right in your views. Let's suppose everyone on here was indeed doing drugs, blacking out, being insane, and so on, and not practicing what you believe is the true Dhamma, and they were fine with that. Then why are you here? You are acting like Fred "I Hate People" Phelps. No one cares. Go find a group where people share your views. No one wants to hear your rants on this group. If you are right, this is the "Insane, Drug Using, Blacking Out, Non-True Dhamma" group. Why are you bothering posting??
But maybe you don't really believe everyone suffers these problems. And maybe you think you have a valuable message to give to the few who do. Then here is your biggest problem: you are not getting that message across. And the reason is -- as I began this post:
You are acting like an arsehead.
Remember, this is an internet forum. So you have no access to body language or tonality when you communicate. Also, you are *very* careless with grammar. You make it easy to misunderstand you. Finally, remember that everything is language. What you say, how you say it, when you say it, and so on, all carry parts of your message. And because of that lack of body language and tonality -- through which a large chunk of meaning is normally conveyed -- you have to be extra careful not to end up saying what you didn't intend.
As a parting example consider this. Telling people with whom you do not already have a close friendly relationship that they are insane, using only words, with no context as to why you are telling them, and *not* getting a negative reaction would take a world class communicator. And that kid of person would be working with the UN to defuse problems in the Middle East, not shooting the breeze on DhO.
You are clearly *not* that world class communicator (hey, neither am I). So the question is not, why do people react to you the way you do but rather, why are you surprised when they do?
Clean up your writing style, be less judgmental, try to see how what you write is going to be interpreted by those to whom you write, and in general
STOP BEING AN ARSEHEAD, and you may find your life on here, and everywhere else, gets a lot more pleasant fast.
OK, that wasn't ten minutes of my time. It was 45 minutes. I'd usually charge $225 for that. For you, 'cuz I care, it's free. You're welcome :-)
Good luck James.