| | RE: Addictions Answer 1/29/11 11:17 AM as a reply to Robert Scott Johnson. I have worked with people around addictions for over 25 years, and while I do not share your particular addictive process, I have worked with others who have been successful with change when they are willing to go to any lengths to look into the painful causes and consequences of their behavior.
I know one sex addict who got rid of his computer and let his friends and family know he used email infrequently. Then, he only used the computer at the library because he knew he wouldn't act out there. He started to go through withdrawals and felt some intense grief arising and stayed with it through many cycles. He worked with me to find other ways to nurture himself and connect with others in healthy ways. He started to see his own participation more in his suffering by allowing the withdrawal to take place. He also worked a sex addicts anonymous program for support with other recovering addicts.
I also know another man who, when traveling, knew he was prone to use when he was in a hotel room, so he had the staff remove the television set for an extra fee in order to honor his recovery program. This takes some familiarity with one's own "using triggers" and a willingness to take action to change the triggers for using, and willingness to feel into the body the withdrawals symptoms.
I have found that meditation does not help much, it can actually make things worse, unless you have a program of support. Although, I do feel that the withdrawal process is fruit for insight work. The body and mind is so clouded with an active addiction process it can be difficult to practice effectively.
My best to you, as you look into your own suffering.
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