(20:50): Since each one (feelings-pleasant, painful and neutral) disappears to give room to another one, could we then say that each time one disappears and gives rise to another one that the “me” has disappeared as certain entity and arises as new one? It never occurs to us to say a thing like that but that would be logical, wouldn't it?

So the pleasant feeling has disappeared so the pleasant “me” has gone, and now the painful feeling arises so we’ve got a painful “me”. And then that one goes away and a neutral feeling arises so we’ve got a neutral “me”. So we already have three “me’s” but that is not the end of it because we have 6 different sense contacts and we can have 3 different feelings in each of the sense contacts. = 18 “me”’s

(25:40): So when we have feeling as self, the Buddha takes those as his explanations not only that it (a feeling) is the three different kinds but also the arising and ceasing of it which has to be taken into account and because this is a very important aspect I’ve already told you, please look at the impermanence of the feelings which you have, of the sensations which you have and obviously of the thoughts which you have and then on the material basis the breath, but if we look at the impermanence of our own feelings and that we could do that as a more one-pointed impermanence object, we will see that there is nothing static, and it does not even continue, we are always led astray by the continuity of it all, the breath continues all the time and we think it’s always there, obviously it isn’t, it stops and starts something new so that is very, very misleading and also our body seems to be always there so that is also misleading us to thinking there is a solid entity.

But feelings are not always there, we always have to make contact first and we don’t always make contact. So particularly for instance when we sleep, we don’t make contact and there’s many occasions when feelings interrupt it and we need to have a look at that. And when it’s interrupted , the continuity being interrupted, it’s much easier to see that this is all just a mental formation to say this is “me”. There is an identity, an entity. Now people in general are afraid to let go of “me”. Why?

Almost like canceling a life insurance policy. But actually what one gets would be to save a lot of money and one would die at exactly at the same time with it or not. And here if we let go of this idea of “me”, we feel as if we are losing a security support, like a security blanket, but we've gone past that, haven’t we, we are a little more mature, we don’t really need a security blanket anymore.

Letting go of this idea of “me” is the greatest relief that anyone can experience , it is the greatest and most wonderful experience that anyone can ever have. It is the losing of the pressure, of that ..like a monkey sitting on one’s neck, constantly pushing one to either do this, to get that or to be this way or have that. Nothing, there is nobody there that’s got to be pushed.
And that enormous relief and release is our gateway to total liberation. So the fear of letting go is due to the fact, that first of all that one doesn’t know what one is going to get. It’s fear of the unknown. But it’s also this feeling of: "Well if I haven’t got that , what have I got?"

No! “I” could be in limbo but the non-“I” cannot be in limbo. That is the big difference. There is nobody to be in limbo. “I” of course, yes, but that is exactly what we are letting go of. So then this is feeling as self. It’s “me”, feelings. (29:35)

could be called "RT - the long way around"

good advice...good listen

thanks