Practice right view, right intention, right speech, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness and right concentration.
It is that simple, a genuine recluse practices the noble eightfold path, a recluse who does not practice the noble eightfold path is not a recluse.
The point is to find something real, and cling to it. If you build your house on something false (unsturdy) it will break, therefore find what is real, a real cornerstone and build your house on it.
But a false premise will give you a false conclusion, and you will continue to whirl around, ever flowing on.
Years ago I learned pick-up (to pick up girls), it never worked, and I complained that no one ever saw who I was. But pick-up is based on the premise of pretending to be someone you're not. If you pretend to be someone you're not no one will ever see you. So it's no wonder I never got into a relationship, simply because there was no one to get into a relationship with!
Similarly it is necessary to be genuine in this Dharma, to ask what you really want and what your intentions are.
For me I just want to get laid, so I don't even know what I'm doing here.
Awkward.
Personally I would leave this place if I could, but I often am compelled (pulled) to come back, so I'm here to stay.
