These books were really helpful to me:

Thoretical:
1. Self-Deception by Fingarette
2. The Adjusted American by Putney and Putney

http://www.amazon.com/Self-Deception-Herbert-Fingarette/dp/0520220528
http://www.amazon.com/Adjusted-American-Neurosis-Individual-Society/dp/0060900954

Practical:
1. Focusing by Eugene Gendlin

http://www.amazon.com/Focusing-Eugene-T-Gendlin/dp/0553278339

I really think Focusing is genius, in terms of dealing with your "stuff"--fears, feelings, motivations, anxiety, and barely-conscious things gnawing at you and controlling your behavior. It's an attentional practice that seems to integrate body, mind, and meaning.

Also, Jack Kornfield says in a blurb in the front matter of the book: "Focusing is a beautiful and meditative approach to psychotherapy and personal growth. It offers a deep parallel to the practice of mindfulness in a carefully developed and sensitive way."

Pretty cool, right? It's been so helpful to me in conjunction with concentration and insight practices (always being clear about which I'm actually doing at any given time), that I wanted to make sure others knew about it.

-Mark

thanks!! just what i was looking 4 something like focusing

Thanks for those links. Integration and these topics are not easy or trivial, and the more good support, the better.