Parents and Secrets - Discussion
Hey everyone,
Just wanted to share some thoughts here.
I feel like I want to tell others that I feel like I have gone through a difficult period living and practicing at home with my parents. Part of this difficulty perhaps lies in the fact that I have been resistant to and/or afraid of opening up and sharing aspects of my subconscious that want to be released.
What I wanted to share is this:
If you are practicing and want to be able to practice more freely without feeling tied down or heavy or restrained or what have you, consider the effect of secrets. If you could make a mental list of everything disgusting and shameful you have done and confess it to those whom it effects, this could have a liberating effect on your life.
Yes, there might be some short term shockwave like effects, but these are more than made up for in the freedom that is gained from a subconscious freed from the mires of guilt.
Another thing I wanted to share is that for those who struggle with sexual things in your practice and perhaps are intrigued by tantric stuff and what have you, consider the effect of your subconscious in all this:
-If tantric sex between you and some sexy partner sounds fun and comforting and alluring and what have you, consider the tantric couple as your mother and father. If this brings up feelings of aversion or attachment, than you probably have dark secrets that want to come up.
Also, weird sexual overtones or undertones while relating to parents, monks, nuns, bosses, etc might be a clue as well.
I say this as someone still working through my darker issues and not as a high tantrika or anything. This is just something that rings true to me and seems so simple but so difficult to do. So I just wanted to encourage others to take the leap and get it all off your chest and out of your stomach, etc.
Empty it all out!
Just wanted to share some thoughts here.
I feel like I want to tell others that I feel like I have gone through a difficult period living and practicing at home with my parents. Part of this difficulty perhaps lies in the fact that I have been resistant to and/or afraid of opening up and sharing aspects of my subconscious that want to be released.
What I wanted to share is this:
If you are practicing and want to be able to practice more freely without feeling tied down or heavy or restrained or what have you, consider the effect of secrets. If you could make a mental list of everything disgusting and shameful you have done and confess it to those whom it effects, this could have a liberating effect on your life.
Yes, there might be some short term shockwave like effects, but these are more than made up for in the freedom that is gained from a subconscious freed from the mires of guilt.
Another thing I wanted to share is that for those who struggle with sexual things in your practice and perhaps are intrigued by tantric stuff and what have you, consider the effect of your subconscious in all this:
-If tantric sex between you and some sexy partner sounds fun and comforting and alluring and what have you, consider the tantric couple as your mother and father. If this brings up feelings of aversion or attachment, than you probably have dark secrets that want to come up.
Also, weird sexual overtones or undertones while relating to parents, monks, nuns, bosses, etc might be a clue as well.
I say this as someone still working through my darker issues and not as a high tantrika or anything. This is just something that rings true to me and seems so simple but so difficult to do. So I just wanted to encourage others to take the leap and get it all off your chest and out of your stomach, etc.
Empty it all out!
